This past weekend I needed to get away for a bit for some R&R. Cue Lenny Kravitz – Fly Away. https://youtu.be/EvuL5jyCHOw
On recommendation from my amazing sister aka my Lifestyle Consultant I found the perfect spot, not too far but far removed from everything and everyone. Perfect price point. Great food , super cool vibes just what the doctor ordered.
During my stay, I met this girl, lets call her Miss. C. She reminded me in so many ways of my 25 years old self. She loves to talk (I don’t)so I learnt quite a lot about her and the pararells were uncanny.
What drew me to her was that this was her first solo trip, (I hope the first of many ). She was abit nervous but also super excited. It reminded me of my first solo vacation many many years ago….bright eyed and nervous, I remember crying so hard on that plane to Johannesburg you would have thought I was being sold to slavery. However, during that trip, the travel bug bit and I’m not hanging up my boots any time soon. But I digress, this story is not about me.
Lessons from Miss. C
On Selfies and Self Love
Selfies are an expression of self love…..
Never do things simply because other people are doing them. Do it because you want to and the timing feels right and it makes sense to you.
Men don’t like to be told what to do. A man just needs you to be there to listen to him and know that you understand him. Anybody can cook or clean for him but not everybody can hold and cuddle him and be there for him in that way. So if that’s what he needs be that person.
If a relationship is not building you, or is abusive in any way, WALK OUT. Nothing, not society, or lack of financial independence should make you stay.
Eeermmm let’s just say she said things that made my ears turn purple…because obviously they can’t turn red.
This was not verbally expressed but Miss C. reminded me the joy of truly and genuinely feeling and expressing it regardless. She had some trouble with her computer and her SD card….and everybody…..the whole damn hotel knew she was upset. But in the same breath, we also experienced with her all the things that made her ecstatic. As we grow older, we learn consciously or unconsciously to down play our thrills and upsets for whatever hundred reasons….you don’t tell folks you’re upset because they will judge you, neither do you share your full joys because they will judge you too. Sigh!
As I said goodbye to Miss C. I wanted to hug her tight and wish her a wonderful life not unlike mine. I’m tempted to tell her to breathe gentle and enjoy every step of the journey because life is rude and has zero respect for our neat little packaged timelines for our lives. That imagined timeline with every milestone in chronological order, marked by a neat little dot, exactly when and where it was supposed to happen; rarely happens. But even then it’s a beautiful life.
I want to say to her to nurture her passion for photography and if someday someone offers to pay her for it she should say yes. Not to commercialize her craft but as tribute to her genius.
I feel like I should tell her not to ever do the same destination twice because the World is so huge, there are a gazillion of options hence no point going back to places you’ve visited before.
I want to tell her to always carry a bathing suit and pair of heels even to the jungle or the mountains….because you just never know.
I want to whisper to her to love her boyfriend (who she adoooooores) with every bit of her and to love herself even more. Not because probably one day he won’t feel the same way about her or she will meet somebody else who she will adore even more since such is life. But because there is strength in the ability to love others wholly, yet still love oneself.
But I don’t say this things to her…and I’m okay with that because I can tell (in the words of Kendrick Lamar)
She gon be alright!
I’m gon be alright!!
We all gon be alright!!
My photoshoot in the wild with the lovely lass.